gladiatt
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ORIGINAL: gladiatt Wow...i've just learned one of my collegue know a young couple among the casualties . The child of this couple is still in holliday with his aunt, and nobody told him what happend because nobody know how to do it. Know, each time we ear a plane or someone talk about some plane, his eyes stare in the "empty" (sorry about bad english)....i feel pain for her, but how to give support?????? I am so sorry. I too have lost people. Light a candle; or maybe have a requiem Mass. Invite your friend, let them know you care, even if it's just the 2 of you. The priests won't care if you kneel or not, but it's a cathartic experience. Afterwards, you can talk about the things that need to be talked about. Hold them. Let them weep. To weep is to be human. It is very difficult in this case to bring support in any way: it's a collegue, not a friend. It's a good collegue, not one you try to avoid in the corridors of the job, but she barely talk. Even now she talk less. In fact i've learned it in a Law lesson, because we were speaking with our teacher about the "disapearing" of someone: in french right, this doesn't mean immediate death, it is a legal state of doubt about death or live . And she is in the same class as me. She ask what happend to people disapearing in a plane crash. The teacher couldn't guess anything: the teacher said "well, it's like those of the Rio Plane, they are supposed disepeared until the prove is done of their death or a time of 10 years without news". In a very small and strangulate voice my collegue told "it's exactly about this plane"....she didn't cry, she didn't had tears, she just stopped to speak for a moment, then she excuse herself and go out for a few minutes. As i knew her i propose to come with her and she said very kindly "no thanks, i'd rather be alone". When she came back she told the whole story to the class, and asked about the child: who should keep it in charge..... Usually, i try not to make as many people facing someone with a distress: on the contrary, i propose to speak. But, as i already told you, we are only collegues, and she refuse politely to speak anymore of it...... Even if someone is not touch himself by this kind of drama, you can't feel good when you ear it from somebody "close". Sorry about the "bad" temper of this post, guys; sometimes it is good to talk here. And hopefully for the time being i have no problems myself, and i rejoice.
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