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Those who have gone.... - 5/13/2021 9:32:57 PM

DD696

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I returned from Texas last Tuesday evening at 0006 am. My brother (not a blood brother, but a step brother with whom we became strong brothers over the last 60 years), anyway, he was given 30 days to live. Cancer, brain, lungs and bone. He let me know, and 3 days later I was there with him to provide daytime hospice care in Paris, Texas, for 12-15 hours a day. After 16 days he died during the night when one of his sons had night time duty. It was, no Bob, no more. I had to do things I never thought I would ever do - cleaning wounds from which the hip bone was exposed. The hospice nurse gave me the courage to do these things. When I saw that bone while turning him with her I cried. She said that's what we expect. Grab that wet wipe and help me clean the wound.

I did. She said the right thing to me and I did what was required. Thank you, hospice nurse. Bob died. No Bob, no more.

I went to McKinney to visit a daughter and grand kids for a week. I have lost 3 younger than I. It hurts.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/13/2021 9:56:20 PM

RangerJoe

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May he Rest in Peace.

My condolences to you and your family. May you be strong and receive any help that you need in your time of need.

To absent companions

, my brother.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 12:38:37 AM

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I am sorry for your loss.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 1:03:31 AM

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So sorry for your loss. May he be at rest and you all find peace.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 1:54:00 AM

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Condolences to you and Bob's family.

My mother passed away last July, she was 3 thousand miles away but my brother in law held his phone up to my mom's ear and she could hear me tell her that I loved her and that I was sorry I was not there to hold her hand one last time, but I was able to read Psalms 18 through 20 to her and she passed peacefully with the last verses of Psalms 20.

Cherish the memories you have and comfort one another.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 3:42:20 AM

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God bless and keep you and his family.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 4:30:36 AM

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Sorry to learn of your loss, DD696. Please accept my sincere sympathy.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 6:45:38 AM

rommel222

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Greetings DD696,
Sad to hear of your loss and may your step brother rest in peace.
I hope you and family can heal over time by keeping good memories of him.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 9:25:08 AM

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My condolences to you and your family.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 3:04:04 PM

wodin

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I bury my Dad this Thursday. Sad times! My condolences to you and yours.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 3:50:06 PM

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Condolences. RIP.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/14/2021 8:09:10 PM

LarryP

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DD696

I returned from Texas last Tuesday evening at 0006 am. My brother (not a blood brother, but a step brother with whom we became strong brothers over the last 60 years), anyway, he was given 30 days to live. Cancer, brain, lungs and bone. He let me know, and 3 days later I was there with him to provide daytime hospice care in Paris, Texas, for 12-15 hours a day. After 16 days he died during the night when one of his sons had night time duty. It was, no Bob, no more. I had to do things I never thought I would ever do - cleaning wounds from which the hip bone was exposed. The hospice nurse gave me the courage to do these things. When I saw that bone while turning him with her I cried. She said that's what we expect. Grab that wet wipe and help me clean the wound.

I did. She said the right thing to me and I did what was required. Thank you, hospice nurse. Bob died. No Bob, no more.

I went to McKinney to visit a daughter and grand kids for a week. I have lost 3 younger than I. It hurts.

Oh man, that's hard. I've never seen anything like you went through. Lost many loved ones in the last few years, but never saw beneath their skin. God bless you sir.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/15/2021 12:35:58 AM

Will_L

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Sincere condolences to you and the family, you were there when your brother needed you most.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/16/2021 10:04:46 PM

DD696

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I thank all of you. My brother said numerous times when I was there that he was blessed to have such family. I don't know about being blessed, but I do know on that last night of his life when I left, I said "I love you. Bob. I am proud to have had you as a brother". He managed to mouth the words "I love you too.

Thank you for the support. He was a good man.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/16/2021 10:56:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DD696

I thank all of you. My brother said numerous times when I was there that he was blessed to have such family. I don't know about being blessed, but I do know on that last night of his life when I left, I said "I love you. Bob. I am proud to have had you as a brother". He managed to mouth the words "I love you too.

Thank you for the support. He was a good man.

May Bob rest in peace and his memory always be a blessing to you.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/16/2021 11:23:30 PM

RangerJoe

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You were there when he needed you the most. It did not take long for you to get there either. He also did not die alone, that is very important.

I know that a lot of people put their supposed "loved ones" into a nursing home or assisted living then don't even bother to visit them. Even when they live in the same town, they may not visit them in a year - if at all. A lot of people don't even visit their "friends" in the nursing home either - even living in the same town.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/17/2021 8:38:01 AM

wodin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DD696

I thank all of you. My brother said numerous times when I was there that he was blessed to have such family. I don't know about being blessed, but I do know on that last night of his life when I left, I said "I love you. Bob. I am proud to have had you as a brother". He managed to mouth the words "I love you too.

Thank you for the support. He was a good man.

Very moving. May he rest in peace and you too find some peace and carry on making him proud of you:)

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/21/2021 2:05:44 AM

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I am sorry to hear of your loss. RIP. And salute to everyone that is a true friend in the last few days.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/21/2021 2:39:41 AM

Erik Rutins

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My condolences to DD696, Zovs, Wodin and all who are dealing with recent loss of a loved one. It's been a tough year, may they all rest in peace.

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RE: Those who have gone.... - 5/21/2021 12:16:59 PM

Edmon

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Sorry to hear of your loss.

You have my respect for having the resolve to be there and do what needed doing, knowing what was to come.

That is not easy to do, as I sadly also know.

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