btd64
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Joined: 1/23/2010 From: Mass. USA. now in Lancaster, OHIO Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: BBfanboy Ok, a few points that go through my mind to go deep into the whole "depictions of women that are attractive to men are evil" thingy: 1. Sexuality is not inherently evil. It is as natural as eating, drinking, sleeping and all the other things animals do to sustain their species. 2. Pagan religions often celebrated sexuality but when the concept of churches was originated, those religions decided they needed to control their parishioners so they would spend more time worshipping. Keeping them at home procreating to make more parishioners was the end result. To do that, they needed to declare most forms of having fun as evil things (like "the demon rum"). 3. The more you try to suppress human curiousity, the more humans will obsess on the subject. When I was a child sexuality and childbirth were hidden topics - we got the stork treatment. I knew nothing about sexuality except what I learned from older kids in the street - which was crude and objectifying to women. Ditto for the men's magazines we would sometimes get a peek at. 4. Hollywood and other types of media did a nudge-nudge wink-wink treatment of sex that told youngsters there was something interesting going on but it was a buried treasure they could not access. 5. Because of these influences, those of us born in the 50s did grow up with objectifying views of women because we rarely saw them depicted otherwise. Their lack of power enabled men to define what they could be and it was big news when a local woman became a doctor or politician. 6. Over succeeding generations to the present women have struggled to change the view of them to a more wholesome one - that they have minds that are as capable as mens' are, that they can be stellar athletes and performers, that they have a personality that must be reconned with if you want to befriend them and that they must juggle many roles to fit in the society we have. 7. And besides the accomplishments in point 6, they still want to be seen as attractive people. Biologically, men are wired to first assess physical attractiveness, so imagery/impressions are important. Evidence of women's interest in making themselves attractive: (a) the cosmetics industry (b) the fashion industry (c) the diet industry (d) to some extent the fitness industry 8. Women's own sexuality has only recently been acknowledged as "normal", but the things men learned to call sexually active women have carried on - and should be called out whenever they are used. I cringe when forumites use the term "that rhymes with witch", even if they are referring to unpleasant behaviour of a woman rather than her social life. This disparagement of women is what can be picked up by children and carried on into their adult life, 9. Today's children are learning a healthier way of looking at the role of women and how to relate to them as persons, not objects. That includes learning about their sexual biology and some of the sexuality that comes with it. It is no longer shocking to children to see a depiction of a women with breasts bared or kissing their partner in public. The cage of evil that religions built around women's sexuality is finally almost removed. But as evidenced in the censorship of pin-up art here, the old attitudes are still with us because that is what we learned when we were growing up. 10. We really ought to look to women to tell us what they find objectionable and what is objectifying. There will be a range of opinions from them, but I suspect they would allow enough to show the contours of their bodies without showing their private anatomy. That is what they do in public every day. 11. And a point on objectification - it happens to all of us. To the salesperson trying to make a deal you are a customer - an objectified wallet if you will. To the bus driver you are a rider - an object to be picked up and delivered (unless you are such a regular that the driver gets to know a bit about you over the years). Objectifying women as sexual beings is not totally wrong, it is just a very incomplete picture of who they are. Well put. I grew up on a farm so I saw the way animals reproduced. My parents were children in the mid 40s through the 50s. Things must of been starting to change at that point because my brother's and I learned early....GP
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