Erik Rutins
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Ok, I'm going to make a couple of things clear and then respond to the questions and points raised since my original post.
I've seen several additional violations of the forum rules, I'm sure quite deliberate, in this thread. For the time being as I did after Alfred was banned, I'll keep it open and let those who wish vent their spleens. Don't abuse the privilege. After that, this thread will be locked. Outside this thread, there is no "waiver". The forum rules are going to be enforced, with warnings and if those are ignored, bans will ensue.
Also, thank you all for the condolences on my father's passing. He is very much missed, he was a great dad and a very good man. I did the best I could to make his last years better.
With that said, on to the content of the discussion:
- For any Alfred-related discussions, please see the new thread I've created where I lay out my thoughts and some evidence regarding the one week ban.
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However I do not like where our world is going, and only causes that melancholy of the past increases, I am the only one that misses the 80s?
No, you're not the only one!
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I love this community more than you can imagine, there has been no day without i lurk into and rarely write, so i hope everyone who care this community could make a step toward the other without see in conflicting opinions an enemy but someone who try to make the site the best and the more inclusive he can.
I agree and feel the same way. What we would like is a place where all behave as gentlemen (or women) to create a forum that deals with the game, its history and any other related family friendly topics. I believe that 99% of posts here fall within our guidelines.
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I will not continue participating in a forum infected by the cancerous scourge upon humanity known as feminism.
Well, not entirely sure what to do with this as it's clearly a political statement, but "feminism" can mean many things to many people. I'm going to assume it means something different to you than "equal opportunities and right in all areas for women" and "equal respect for women". That's what it means to me. With that said, I don't recall raising a banner for "feminism" but I believe as I think most here who have wives and/or daughters would, that the world should have the same opportunities for all sexes. In any case, if you feel otherwise, I agree you would not feel at home here.
On a somewhat related tangent, one thing I wanted to address was a comment Edmon made during the stream of discussions regarding our rules about the treatment of women in the 40s/50s. I think his statement came across a bit more absolute than intended and offended many. Bottom line I don't think it's something we as moderators need to be opining on and I've expressed that to him. In the spirit of this thread, I'll say that while many things have improved greatly since then as far as equality of the sexes, I think it's also fair to look at today's culture and say that in some ways, respect and proper behavior towards women has gotten worse.
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1) Heavy handed moderation
I've explained the intended moderation style in the first post. Ironically, both Edmon and I fell afoul of the community in the same way, by acting without a warning/explanation. This is the Matrix Games forum and it is not owned by the community, but the community is the beating heart of it. It is worth noting that when I banned Alfred, I didn't think of a one week ban as overly heavy-handed. Neither did Edmon think that locking a thread was overly heavy handed. I know both came across as such, but hopefully with the explanation in the original post the community will understand what to expect from our rules and how they are enforced.
The deletion of threads should not have happened, but this is again normal in other communities as Edmon tried to explain. It's not what this community is used to, so it came as a shock, but it's standard practice in many other places. The rules I laid out in the original post are what I've asked Edmon to follow going forward. He will be helping out across all Matrix Forums and I will emphasize that he is a good guy who just hadn't been briefed on the common practices here, but he and I should be more in sync now. It's my responsibility, not his, that he didn't understand what the community here considers "normal moderation" vs. "heavy handed".
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2) A lack clarity on the full extent of the "Decency Policy"
I tried to explain this more in my original post, but I know there are more questions. It reminds me of the old quote from the court case regarding pornography: "I'll know it when I see it". Unfortunately, some of this is a judgement call, but historical context means a lot and we take good faith into account and will act with common sense. No one is going to get a sudden ban without a warning or explanation if we think something does cross the line.
If you're posting it in order to titillate or sexualize something, you're going to be across that line. If there's a valid reason to share a picture of someone for historical or game context or because of current events, that should never be an issue. From what I have seen, it really should not be hard to understand the broad limits if you think about this as a club that everyone can enter, from kids including your daughters to your wife or mom, etc.
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3) The hypocrisy of banning suggestive female images from the forums while using similar ones in Slitherine's game products.
I addressed this in my initial post. I think the focus on hypocrisy has been a bit too sharp and lacking in good faith. This is a work in progress and some of our older games may still have content we wouldn't put in now and some of the new games may not full get where we want to go either, but we're working on it. Specific to Master of Magic, I've said I'll be discussing that with the team.
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I do have an issue with anyone doling out bans prior to issuing a warning as there is rarely a case that is completely clear cut. If after a warning we don't agree, as customers we can simply vote with our feet and walk away.
Agree and barring truly egregious circumstances, we'll try hard to avoid this going forward.
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Next question would be on how many warnings do you get.
One warning for a given issue, that's it. There's no limit on warnings on separate issues, but if someone is really trying to push the rules, a pattern of behavior can result in a ban.
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I have asked for clarification about my well-known sigpic showing the topless-but-censored "canoe girls" and was told to take it down - I have complied, albeit grudgingly. I have been using this sigpic since 2004, never got any complaints about it - on the contrary, it seemed to have been quite popular. I find it hard to understand that something that was ok for almost 18 years (!) is suddenly being considered as inappropriate. Apparently in our times "decency" is moving towards a more and more conservative interpretation, and in the case of "my girls" I ask myself if that "decency" thingy isn't being overdone and crossing a line towards prudery and somatophobia. I'll miss my sigpic, it had become part of my forum identity.
I understand and to a degree sympathize, but from what I recall from past years if it stayed it would be one heck of an exception to the family friendly rule. Perhaps you could find a new historical avatar that is also noteworthy and helps your posts stand out? After all, there are other historical LargeSlowTargets that would make for great avatars.
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While I can't speak for Erik and Matrix, I would venture a guess that civility on the forums doesn't end with posting questionable photos. I believe they understand that to grow their business, they are trying to lay the groundwork for a more welcoming community, be it what's posted in text or in photos. Ultimately, they run a business and these forums exist here to promote and help sell their games, period. If we believe their are too heavy-handed in their moderation, we are free to head to reddit or other boards without much if any moderation. However, that only serves to further dilute our genre.
It's true and growing the hobby is objectively a good thing. Public forums should also be welcoming places. I hope most will stay around here for discussions related to the game and history and if they want other kinds of discussions, find another forum for those.
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I agree. Although I do not know if matrix is concerned, or not, with the loss of many collective years of experience, with this game, from this forum. Perhaps their overall objectives are willing to bear that cost.
I don't want to lose any of our forum members, but we will be enforcing the forum rules going forward, neutrally and with reasonable warning and common sense.
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None of us are perfect and Alfred is no exception. The fact that he was underappreciated does not absolve him of all responsibility. It is my sincere wish that he would come back to the forum and the lack of his presence is a detriment to all of us. However, Alfred also needs to be able to see where he was wrong and to be able to accept Erik's generous olive branch and accept the forum's rules. Civility is a precondition for all of us, no matter our knowledge.
Thank you, your summary is about how I see things as well. I regret that Alfred appears to have left the forum for good as he did have a lot to offer if he could remain civil and constructive.
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There's the additional element that it was publicly stated that Alfred's ban was supposed to be one week, after which there would be a clean slate. Yet, no Alfred. It certainly doesn't engender a atmosphere of reflection and reconciliation when one thing is being said in public and something quite different being carried out in practice.
You have my word that a simple e-mail from Alfred stating he would follow the rules would restore his forum access. He also knows this is the case as I informed him myself after I reached out when his one week ban ended.
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I also agree w/ RJ "feminsm" is only part of the problem, basically we are going to facism / comunism for some years already, this only got very bad in the last 2 years or so. Seems also a certain sickness is now used as kind of a cover for this. Cancel culture, suppression of "diverting opinions", political correctness, "fact checkers" that do not really have facts and most other "isms" are part/signs of this.
To be clear, that is not what's going on here. We are trying to make sure all of our public forums are family friendly and welcoming places. Political discussions have been against the rules for at least 15 years if not more, along with other divisive topics. The reason for that was always simple. We are here to focus on our shared interests, not on what divides us.
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Can you even hear yourself? This has to be the most pompous, self righteous thing I have ever heard and goes straight to the root of the whole problem. I will give you one thing your loyalty to the so-named is astounding.
Ok, you're fortunate that I'm giving everyone in this thread a pass, but if you keep this up in replies to other posters you will get another ban.
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"herd mentality" <snip>
Frankly, I have no idea what you are talking about here and the link didn't work for me. I'm sure there are things going on in the wider "pro wargaming" community that I know nothing about. What has bearing on us here are the principles that have been explained, which are not a matter of politics.
I'd appreciate a bit more good faith and benefit of the doubt directed our way if possible. I'm doing my best to extend that to all of those who think the worst of us as well.
As far as Matrix going downhill, I think we've published some excellent new wargames recently and our community numbers and sales have been increasingly steadily. We also have a number of exciting projects in the works and a new WITP-AE update coming for the first time in years. I think you are being overly pessimistic on a number of fronts.
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Eric admitted that Alfred did not get a warning first which is part of the rules, then the ban would be in place. Since there was no warning prior to the ban, then the ban was in violation of the rules.
1. Warning for behavior
2. Ban if that certain specified behavior continues
3. Ban for longer periods of time if that specified behavior continues
That is the order which was supposed to have been followed but was not.
I've explained this several times, but just to be clear again, we always reserve the right to skip a step. I thought there was enough clear evidence to do so. I've explained my re-considerations in hindsight above.
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I have found a lot of kind members within this forum that have aided me quite extensively in my pursuit of playing this game with some degree of competence. And many of our fellow forumites are posting very nice AARs that are a pleasure to follow. I wish to thank all of you that have contributed to making this a fun place for me to visit.
There have also been members less kind-hearted. They have given me the opportunity to practice forgiveness. And if I've had to practice too hard on my ability to forgive, I've found this excellent little green button at the bottom of a post. Humbly I would suggest (very-very humbly) that the green button is our friend. to my good fellows, I say let no fellow gamer get your goat. I've hidden my goat. You might consider the same.
By and large, it's a great community and I hope we can keep it that way. I agree that forgiveness and using the green button when needed are good habits.
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I don't know either, but I doubt it's possible to spell it out exactly. I'm just hoping for "reasonable".
Yes, that post about Betty is clearly just fine and I wish she was still with us. As I explained above, common sense applies. Once you consider it equivalent to a space where kids, daughters and wives will be coming and going, like the main room of a local game store, I think you get the idea and understand what we're aiming for.
Finally, I want to emphasize that Edmon is not a "stranger from a strange land". He is an official moderator and while he is relatively new compared to me, he has my support and he'll have more guidance from me going forward. You'll see him and me around here more often and we'll be moderating as explained in the original post. You can discuss and debate any decisions we make, but please keep it civil and extend some benefit of the doubt. Edmon was acting within our forum rules as well as the community moderating standards he was used to and frankly he's done more moderating in much worse communities than probably any of us have. I firmly believe that if you extend some benefit of the doubt, you will find that he is a fair and patient moderator.
Regards,
- Erik
< Message edited by Erik Rutins -- 1/18/2022 7:48:38 PM >
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