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ORIGINAL: BrucePowers Nik I know what works for one couple doesn't always work for another. That being said, this month my wife and I will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. If you can't do the last one, definitely do 1 and 2 and let her know how you feel. quote:
ORIGINAL: Chickenboy I hear ya, Nik. In all seriousness, these are ripe grounds for problems. Communication and trust are the watchwords of the day. Hope things work out well for the two of you. Yes....definately different flavours....and as mentioned by wise persons....no guaurentees. My dad's marriage lasted 17 years before an "office rommance" ended it. GF and i have made it to 8 years. We are both not deep into the marriage thing and both us of are against making copies of each other. We did talk about it and i was honest in that i was not suprised given the info i had gleaned. She gave me a few quizzical looks on a couple comments i made in response to the future but like you'all said....ultimately there has to be trust....and like i told her....it's not like she can quit her job, or like i'm gonna start following her around in suspicion and distrust. One has to trust in the end.....but part of me still wishes she hadn't said anything as one is left with an unsettled feeling. It's like the time a former roommate made a pass on me and i (as it turns out wisely) declined to mention it to the GFU until AFTER the roommate was history. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Nik, if you want my advice, its that you shouldnt sweat it. In my life experience I've learned one thing for absolute certain. If youre SO is inclined to do something silly, there is absolutely nothing you can say or do to stop, stall or avert that. On the flip side of it, if raise it as an issue to you SO, there is a very good chance that they would take offense at (I know I would in her place) the insinuation that you dont trust her. My personal opinion is that you should not make your problems into her problems (I'm sure she has enough, dealing with you ) unless given overt cause to do so.
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